If you’re a boomer like me, you may remember the Enjoli perfume commercial from the early eighties that said, “I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man, ’cause I’m a woman.”
Back then a woman was expected to stay home and take care of her man. Today we are extremely blessed to live in a world that encourages women to be entrepreneurs, to stand up, speak up, and lead while doing so with feminine grace. We recognize that being a successful woman does not preclude our femininity; in fact, it is our responsibility to lean into the feminine as a powerful archetype of strength, creativity, intelligence, and intuition. This feminine aspect is a universal archetype that transcends genders and is alive in all of us—men and women alike.
When I first saw that provocative commercial, I was in my late-twenties and could never have guessed that I would grow into an innovative entrepreneur myself. Like a cat with nine lives who always lands on its feet, I have owned and run several successful businesses, including a barter company specializing in trading media for inventory, a direct marketing and advertising company, and a clothing line of hand-painted goods featured at Saks Fifth Avenue.
While running these companies, I also facilitated a women’s spiritual study group, assisted men and women into optimal health through hands-on energy work, and taught yoga and meditation.
During these fascinating and highly rewarding adventures, I built a network marketing business on the side, which I absolutely loved. I met the best people and learned a lot about myself, my life skills, and who I wanted to be when I grew up. Was I successful? You bet! I didn’t become a multimillionaire, but the experience of working with an upline, a downline, sidelines, and everything in between made me a better businesswoman in every way.
The greatest lesson I learned was that you have to focus on your own business before you reach out to help everyone else. I had a tendency to give both my time and energy to everyone freely, which often left me too exhausted to take care of my own business. This is not unusual for women, as we are hard-wired to be caretakers and often don’t know where to draw the line.
Network marketing proved to be a perfect arena for balancing this nurturing quality with personal empowerment, vision, and the wisdom to take care of yourself first and then give from the overflow.
My journey ultimately taught me that in order to be successful in the world, you must first be at peace in your own heart. You must own who you are, know where you’re going, and be 100 percent comfortable in your own skin.
Always take courage to speak up for what you believe to be your truth and refuse to take less, be less, or shrink from your potential to satisfy anyone else’s needs or expectations. When you are grounded in your genuine feminine nature and willing to shine wherever you are, then you are free—free to be everything you have always dreamed of becoming.
MARYDALE is founder of Param Yoga Healing Arts Center and
recently joined the faculty of Networking University.
A long-time yoga teacher and intuitive healer, she facilitates classes in
lifestyle training for optimal mental, physical, emotional, and financial health.