by Dr. Bill Toth

Looking at my calendar it's easy to see Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday....and now I'm confused...where is "Someday"? Everybody talks about it. Everybody has all kinds of great things that they're going to do or have accomplished on that day...Someday.

You've heard it before, "Someday I'll lose that last 10lbs. Someday I'll tell my boss what I really think. Someday I'll make enough so my spouse doesn't have to work. Someday I'll take the family on that vacation. Someday I'll be able to afford that car. Someday I'll start saving for my kid's college. Someday I'll start my own business. Someday I'll actually take the actions necessary to build my business. And Someday I'll actually do what I know."

As a physician I would hear it a lot in the hospital: Someday -- after I get outta here and get well, then I'll _____. As a success coach I often hear it in the context of a post-traumatic event such as divorce, business failure, bankruptcy, car wreck, as in "Someday after I get through this, then I'll __ . And yes in my lifetime I've even said those words a time or two.

So just where is "Someday" on the calendar? No-where! It's NOW-here!

Someday's can happen this moment. They start with a pen, a paper and an unedited list. Simply start making a list of all the things you desire to be, do and have. There is no item too large, nor too small. It's your life, your list....and for now keep it private.

Your conscious mind may whine a bit regarding wanting to know the "how" for each item. For now that is irrelevant. At this stage of the process it is never necessary to be conscious of the "How" - simply write your heart's desire and keep writing and writing and writing. For some it helps to pretend you're writing a Christmas wish list...if that helps you then use that metaphor.

Pay zero attention to your past accomplishments or failures...the past is past and it probably didn't happen the way you think it did. Remember, the familiar story: four people standing on four corners all witness the same accident and when interviewed by police they each tell a completely different version of the event.

So it is with your past. It is very likely that the things you remember didn't happen exactly the way you remember. So would now be a great time to remember them in a way that supports you?

Once you've completed your list...time for a little faith. Faith is simply gratitude in advance; so be grateful in advance for having already accomplished those items. This helps eliminate the fear regarding the how and will allow you to now ask yourself some great questions:

Who do I know who has already accomplished these things?
Who could I ask to assist me?

We all have resources and more importantly resourcefulness.

Finally, the most important part of the process is to use your calendar to allocate the time to pursue your to-do list. We all have the same twenty-four hours in a day. Why is it that some people use their time on earth to languish away in a victim role and others use it to squeeze every possible experience from life?

Someday maybe I'll be able to answer that for you, but for now I'll say this: You don't know what you don't know and you won't know until you do. Start writing because if it's not written, it's not going to happen Someday or any day.

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