“If you want to fight for your limitations, you get to keep them,” one of my coaches told me once. You guessed it, this was at a time when I was being less than coachable. I was trying to do things my way (and not getting the results I wanted).
For most of us, it takes a conscious and consistent effort to stop fighting for our limitations. It’s human nature to want to rationalize, justify, excuse or blame—instead of listen, take in the feedback, and change.
It’s easy to get hurt feelings or feel upset when a course correction is suggested. It’s easier to allow self-deception to limit our results, thus “putting a lid” on our learning.
Being coachable is a practice. It’s making a habit of staying humble, keen to learn, and putting into action what’s being taught. It’s showing gratitude and respect for the coach’s time by consistently showing up early, taking notes, and doing your homework to the best of your ability.
Let go of your ego and show you’re eager. A “too-cool-for-school” attitude will not serve you! Show your enthusiasm and thirst for growth. When you stop fighting for your limitations, you become open to the possibility for improvement and the next level of leadership.
When looking for a network marketing coach, here’s what I recommend:
Once you’ve found a coaching relationship that works for you, simply focus. Don’t look to the left, don’t look to the right, don’t look backwards. Just follow and surrender to the coaching process. With your attitude and your actions, practice being someone you would enjoy coaching, because you’d know your input and support would make a lasting difference.
We’re blessed to live in times where we have tons of world-class coaching available. When I first joined network marketing in the early 90s in Ireland, all I had was two audio cassettes I played over and over until they were completely worn out. Now we have a wealth of knowledge at our fingertips from leaders around the world—if we can only be coachable.
Much gratitude and respect to the many great coaches who contributed to this exciting first issue of the year, to help us all take our lives to the next level in 2016!
GARRETT MCGRATH has served as President of the Association of Network Marketing Professionals (ANMP) since 2012. Garrett and Sylvia McGrath have over 40 years of combined experience in leading large network marketing organizations and serve on the editorial board of Networking Times.