Conflict is a normal part of two people with different needs, interests, and motivations coming together. It’s how conflict is handled that determines the quality and ultimate success of a relationship. You can learn to address conflict using a single technique—one that’s so effective at addressing conflict that it’s called a repair. In the heat of an argument, a repair sends an instant signal that you think the other person is important, that you respect him or her, and that you’re willing to put the good of the relationship ahead of your self-interest. Repairs don’t simply improve the outcomes of the conflicts that you weave them into. They inject health into relationships that have been damaged by discord.