Creative, passionate, and powerful women can accomplish anything they put their minds to, says Rosalie Moscoe. Women also tend to jump in anywhere they see a need, taking on many roles for many people. These selfless traits often compromise a woman's health and wellbeing, leaving her depleted, frustrated, and suffering from an endless variety of stress-related conditions.
Having experienced this conundrum first-hand, Rosalie Moscoe wrote Frazzled Hurried Woman! to share the lessons she learned on her own journey to more harmonious living with the millions of women around the world who juggle the responsibilities of family, work, community, and self-actualization.
"For the most part, the Frazzled Woman is excited by her life," says Rosalie. "Yet there never seems to be enough time to do everything. She is always in a hurry!"
If you are frazzled and live as though you are careening through your days on a rollercoaster, this book will offer you hope and practical ways to help you access a more balanced and relaxed state of being.
Starting with a quick self-assessment of how stressful your life is today, Rosalie guides you to visualize where you would like to be. Next she invites you to list your present commitments to yourself and others, then proposes six steps to combat over-commitment:
Outline your priorities. Look within and ask yourself what's most important to you. Free yourself of commitments that fall at the bottom of your priority list.
Ask for help. Which tasks can you delegate? Kids can fold laundry, even if the towels aren't folded perfectly.
Dissect your most stressful commitment, be it parenting, elderly care, work, or volunteering. Tackling commitments one at a time makes them more manageable.
Turn your over-nurturer button to the "off" mode. Are you trying to be everything to everyone? Ask yourself why you take on so much. Is your self-esteem tied in to your ability to accomplish more every day?
Practice saying no. This is especially important if you work from home, because others may assume since you are not "at work," you are available. If you routinely take on others' problems and responsibilities, learn how to disengage gracefully.
Practice saying yes to your own needs. Set aside at least fifteen minutes each day to do something you enjoy and another fifteen minutes to consciously relax.
Rosalie Moscoe's book reminds us that life is not about getting to the bottom of our to-do list, but much more about the quality of our experience and presence in the world.
"Our mission in life should be to remain well, and to work on behalf of humanity," says psychiatrist Dr. Abram Hoffer in the foreword. "This book will help us achieve that end. Men too become frazzled and hurried. I recommend they read this book as well."
Paperback, 231 pages, $16.95;
Health in Harmony, 2011.