November 16th 2009, Anton was born. A beautiful baby boy, he instantly became the apple of his parents' eye. But something was wrong. After extensive testing, Anton was diagnosed with Diamond-Blackfan anemia. His body doesn't produce red blood cells. Every week his mom, Maria, a network marketing leader on our team, takes him to the hospital to get a blood transfusion. Soon his parents will have to learn to do the transfusion themselves at home. Anton is in all other ways a healthy two-year-old who talks and is developing exactly as he should. He loves life and has a big smile on his face every time I see him.

What does this have to do with our theme of building confidence in business?

Kahlil Gibran said, "Your living is determined not so much by what life brings you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."

Earlier today I was watching some old video recordings from when I was a child. I had forgotten how I used to sing and play the piano in public concerts and was surprised to see that I didn't seem nervous at all.

When I spoke on stage for the first time as a network marketer, I was twenty years old. I was to introduce a speaker at a business presentation in my hometown. I had practiced over and over and memorized what I was going to say, but when the moment came to speak, I froze and forgot the name of the speaker. I was so embarrassed!

We all have experienced similar situations, where we wish the floor would open and we would magically disappear.

Fear of failure is something most of us suffer from. But if your hunger level is stronger than your fears, you conquer your fears by taking action. I can't count how many times I have been overly nervous about meeting people, speaking on stage, or making major business decisions. But the more action I take, the more competent and confident I become.

When you start a business, the most important way to gain competence is by taking action. The more meetings you lead, the more competent you become, which yields results that in turn build confidence.

How does this relate to the story about Anton and Maria?

If you knew in advance that you would have a child with an incurable disease, you might think it would be more than you can handle. But when faced with the situation, it turns out that you not only handle it, you master it with confidence!

Don't think about the difficult tasks that may come, but focus on everything you already have accomplished, especially those things you thought you couldn't handle. Trust that by taking action in the moment, you will become competent—and confident.

HILDE RISMYHR SÆLE has over ten years of experience in network marketing and her team is active in eight countries. She is a motivational speaker and top leader in her company, which she also co-owns with her husband Ørjan Sæle.