“Words are our commonest gifts to others,” says Happy Oasis. With words, we color and sculpt our worlds. We are what we think, say and do, so why verbally hobble when we can boogaloo?”
Apart from being a poet and author, Happy Oasis is founder of Raw Spirit Fest, the largest raw vegan, eco-peace festival in the world, where living food enthusiasts gather around the vision “to integrate healthy living, eco-sustainable solutions and world peace.”
In this glossary and workbook, Happy invites us to co-create new ways to express our desires and visions in our daily conversations. She first identifies our most commonly asked questions and explores more inspiring variations. For example, instead of “How are you?” we could ask:
What intriguing concepts have you been exploring lately?
What uplifting news would you like to share?
What especially delighted you today?
The chapter “The Universe Is Deaf to Negatives” shows how to remove negatives from our statements and add kindness instead. “It’s no problem” becomes: It’s pure pleasure. “Don’t hurt yourself,” turns into: Kindly proceed with care. “Don’t shout” makes room for: Shall we whisper?
A chapter on gratitude reminds us that habitually stating what we appreciate expands our capacity to give and receive.
Under “Feeling Fortunate and Free of Complaints,” Happy suggests that “while happiness is here for everyone, surprisingly, not everyone is here for happiness. It is a curious fact that some people are not truly happy unless they are perfectly miserable. Good luck is habitual and relative, and open to interpretation, as is its opposite.”
Stating “It’s a problem” is giving power to problem consciousness. Instead we can choose to call the situation remarkable, curious, educative or hilarious.
What can you say to someone in a truly challenging situation? Happy explains the difference between pity and compassion: pity weakens, while compassion empowers. Pity suggests, “I’m sorry, that is dreadful what happened to you,” leaving the listener feeling dreadful. Compassion, in contrast, affirms: Look for the good in this situation. Tap your infinite strength. This may be a great opportunity in the making.
Casually stating that something is terrible or horrible only adds terror and horror to the world. What are some heartening alternatives for “That’s terrible”? Shall we take a moment and infuse this situation with love?
What if we could instantly enhance the lives of the people we meet, simply through the words we use? Would that make a difference in your business, in your leadership, in your life? Demonstrating the powerful effects of positive speech, this book will help you create memorable and uplifting conversations with anyone, regardless of the situation.
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Books for Earthlings, 2004