People live much longer these days. Statistics predict most of us will see our eightieth birthdays. Even more optimistic, some scientists say were easily equipped to live to 120. Imagine hitting sixty and thinking, Hello, middle age! Knowing its possible youll live to be much older than most people at any other time in history, you have to realize, even if youre already over that proverbial hill, youve got a whole life ahead of you. Most of us havent even hit our stride yet.
Choose What You Want to Create
What do you choose to create for the rest of your life? Its a funny phrase: the rest of your life. Most people dont envision swinging in a hammock for thirty to sixty years. Even though Im years away from sixty, I certainly dont plan on lazing about for the entire remainder of my time here on earth. Yet if we can think of the rest as both purposeful and mindful inactivity, along with the absence of both busywork and exhaustion, then the rest of our lives can take on an entirely new meaning and meaningfulness.
Easier said than done, though, isnt it? To expend our energy on whats most important and to remember to slow down so we can rejuvenate takes conscious attention on a clear vision for our lives. We must know with absolute clarity what we choose to create.
and Move Toward
Many of us find it much easier to define what we dont want: I dont want to be downsized out of a job, I dont want to be fat any more, I dont want to be alone.
Knowing these dont-wants is only half the equation. These are the conditions we want to move away from. What are we moving toward? To be successful in the long term, you must know both the moving away, which tends to compel you to action in the first place, and the moving toward that will keep you going even after youve reached a major milestone.
Consider the example of a weight-loss goal. A major factor in the yo-yo effect commonly associated with this goal is that people are clear about what they dont want, but dont have a vision for what they do want. Once theyve lost the weight, why continue to exercise and eat sensibly? The goal has been achieved, so theres nothing left to do but hope that some good habits got ingrained. But for most people, that doesnt happen. Ninety percent of people who lose weight in North America gain everything back within two years or lessplus two more pounds!
Once people who were overweight get far enough away from being fat, the motivators are gone, and they get sucked back into their old behaviors. A better strategy is to acknowledge the moving away motivator, but then to focus on the moving toward: I will feel confident and strong in my body, I will be able to enjoy any physical activity that interests me, I will look irresistible in my jeans.
Likewise, a person who wants to get out of debt (move away) needs to come up with a vision to move toward: e.g., I will have the freedom to travel anywhere in the world. Someone who doesnt want to feel lonely any more (move away), needs to focus on what he or she chooses to create: e.g., I will reach out to my family and friends so I always feel connected. We need to know where were headed, not just what were leaving behind.
Become the Person You Were Meant to Be
So what is it that you really want in your life? What do you desire? What are you passionate about? When you have a desire for something, it is your higher self speaking, prodding and wishing you to grow.
I remember years ago hearing one of my mentors say, Decide to be a millionaire not for the green slips of paper you will have, but for who you will have to become to get there.
Your current results are a direct reflection of the person you have become up to this point. Why is it that those who win the lottery in our countryalmost without exceptionare flat broke and miserable within two years? It is because they have not yet become the type of person necessary to live at that level.
It takes a bigger person to make $100,000 per year than $10,000to make $100,000 per month than $10,000. It takes a bigger person to go Royal Diamond than it does to go Silver.
Understand, I did not say a better person. There is not one of us who is better than anyone else. We have all been given the same potential from our Creator. But it does take a bigger person, a person who is willing to stretch, to take risks, to take massive action and have tremendous faith.
There is only one objective in this life: to fully expand and grow into your full capability. Your desire is calling you, challenging you to take the next peak, to become the person necessary to rise above your current plateau, no matter how favorable it may seem.
The great mythologist Joseph Campbell said, The only question in life is whether or not you are going to answer a hearty yes to your adventure. Answer yes! Believe in yourself and take the leap of faith. You will be glad you did and your life will be magnificent!
JAMES ARTHUR RAY is President and CEO of
James Ray International, a corporation dedicated to
teaching individuals to create harmonic wealth in all areas
of their lives. James Ray is a featured teacher in The Secret