Paradox 1
You most engage what you run away from; running away is a very specific, focused, and motivated action.

Paradox 2
Acceptance is not acquiescence.

Paradox 3
Passivity is a very determined activity. Forgetting is as active a process as remembering. Doing nothing is a specific decision, process and work product.

Paradox 4
If you don’t change your direction, you are likely to end up where you are headed (ancient Chinese proverb).

Paradox 5
To require that others respond to you exactly as you want means you give them control over you.

Paradox 6
If you influence others to respond in the specific way that you want, and they do, you have rendered them inauthentic in your mind.

Paradox 7
Activity is not necessarily the same as productivity; doing does not equate with being.

Paradox 8
Assumptions and beliefs, like traumas, are ways of stopping time.

Paradox 9
“More” is not a goal, but because it is elusive, it has appeal as a container of hope and happiness.

Paradox 10
Suffering and desire are the two secrets we cannot keep.

Paradox 11
See it big. Keep it simple.

Paradox 12
Be aware of definitive statements that foreclose exploration. A statement by one man was sufficient to explain all the unexplainable to him: “All women are females.”

Paradox 13
You can be strong if you allow yourself to be weak.

Paradox 14
The only thing constant is change. Often the hardest work is accepting the changes.

Paradox 15
The loss of the illusion is more difficult than the loss of the real thing.

Paradox 16
The more you run away from something, the more apparent it becomes.

Paradox 17
We criticize, perhaps to prove that we do not posses the fault.

Paradox 18
Both opposition and conformity occupy the same prison.

Paradox 19
Only when you feel fully secure can you be aware of how afraid you were before.

Paradox 20
Fighting something engages it; accepting it lets it go.

Paradox 21
Only the impossible is addictive—a fantasy that has been lost but given temporary hope by proxy.

Paradox 22
The answer always gives birth to and shapes the question. Only by listening to the answers can you finally give voice to the question.

Paradox 23
Adolescents can teach us the depth of superficial things.

Paradox 24
It is rare to see fully all that there is, yet nothing else.

Paradox 25
Action is not the same as emotion. Judgment resides in the potential space between the two.

Paradox 26
It is a moment of liberation to know that no one is binding you.

Paradox 27
The most common thing that gets in the way of seeing something as it truly is, is our preconception of it. The most common thing that gets in the way of listening and understanding something, is trying to fix it.

Paradox 28
Fear, change and adventure are synonyms.

Paradox 29
Mistakes and successes are teachers.

Paradox 30
The past is a lesson. To let go of it and learn from it is a process.

Paradox 31
“Finding” yourself is creating yourself.

Paradox 32
All you have to do is the next right thing. Sometimes it isn’t clear what the next right thing is, but you can almost always be clear as to what it isn’t.

The opposite of perfect is real.
The opposite of fear is freedom.
The opposite of control is mastery.
The opposite of doing is being.
The opposite of repetition is creativity.
The opposite of working harder is working smarter.

DAVID KRUEGER, M.D. is CEO of MentorPath, an executive coaching
practice tailored to the needs of coaches, entrepreneurs,
and healing professionals. He is Mentor and Training Coach at
Coach Training Alliance. He is author of 11 books on success,
money, work, and self-development. This article is excerpted from
Dr. Krueger’s 12th book, soon to be published,
Live a New Life Story: The Essentials of Change, Reinvention and
Personal Success.