Romain says that a milestone in her capacity for abundance was the realization that she was "receiving-impaired": an upbringing guided by the principle "it is better to give than receive" bred into her a habit of resisting help, recognition, appreciation, gratitude and other similar gifts. "With this knee-jerk, automatic deflector shield solidly in place, you and I will frequently and unknowingly block opportunities for support, love, money and other forms of abundance."