Lynn Grabhorn

The Astonishing Power of Feelings

An interview with Lynn Grabhorn, author of Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting

By John Milton Fogg



Lynn Grabhorn I n The Greatest Networker in the World, I wrote, “That was the night my life changed for the better forever.” Lynn Grabhorn’s Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting is the book that did that for me.

I have studied for years, seeking what was missing in my life and work. Lynn showed me where it was: “The astonishing power of feelings.” Energy, the Law states, cannot be created or destroyed. It can only be transformed. Feelings are energy. If you’re up for transformation, read Lynn’s book. — JMF

NT: Why did you subtitle your book, “The Astonishing Power of Feelings”

All the self-help and positive-thinking books have come close, but they haven’t quite caught the brass ring. We can positive-think all we want to, but thinking isn’t really the issue

We are electromagnetic beings. Because of that, everything that we feel—not just think, but feel—radiates out as waves. And those same waves come back to us. It’s a pure law of physics: like frequencies attract.

We are electromagnetic beings. Because of that, everything that we feel—not just think, but feel—radiates out as waves. And those same waves come back to us. It’s a pure law of physics: like frequencies attract.

Think of yourself as a piano keyboard, centered around middle C. Everything below middle C is mild worry, a little concern, or something that doesn’t feel good. Anything above middle C is just the opposite. The higher up or the lower you go, the more intense it gets.

Let’s say you’re sitting behind some guy at a stoplight. The light turns green—but he doesn’t go, because he has five telephones shoved in his ear. You start to grouch and get annoyed. Do this all day long, and soon you’ll get back something that matches the feelings that you’ve been sending out.

People who are extremely ill are not positive, up, happy people. They are ill because they are not happy—that’s how it affects the body.

It doesn’t have to be the guy in front of you. If you obsess over something that doesn’t make you feel good, it doesn’t matter whether it’s something happening here and now, or something that has gone on for a long time. It’s the frequencies of the vibrations you’re generating.

If I say, “Oh gosh, I have to cut the grass,” that’s just a thought that goes through me. If I start grousing about it—“Oh, damn, I don’t want to cut the grass, I don’t have enough time to do anything…”—now we are into the “don’t-wants.”

NT: If it feels bad, get off it; if it feels good, keep on it.

That’s about all there is to it. How we feel is how we vibrate; how we vibrate is how we attract. It’s that simple: pure physics, nothing woo-woo about it.

I had two physicists in a seminar last year. They both kept nodding their heads, until I finally said, “Come on you guys, what are you nodding your heads about?” They said, “Frequencies attract like frequencies; that’s how the universe works. It’s just that no one ever told us our lives work like this!”

NT: It doesn’t matter what you focus on, as long as you stop and reverse that negative feeling?

Money is the most negatively charged word in the English language. As you focus on it, you feel it; as you feel it, you vibrate it; as you vibrate it, you attract more of what you don’t want. It’s our bellwether, it’s the thing that we have that says, “my life isn’t working, this isn’t going the way that I want it to go”—and that’s exactly what we get more of.

In the book, I go into more depth. But really, that’s all it is. You can get more complicated with it, start focusing on your wants instead of your don’t-wants. But truthfully, all you need to do is take your focus off of what doesn’t make you feel good.

It doesn’t have to be that you look out your bay window onto glorious scenery. Maybe you don’t have grand and glorious scenery to look out over. But you can find something and flow energy to it, and that will change your vibration. You will feel like a perfect jackass when you pick up an unsharpened pencil and flow this energy into saying, “Oh is that just the most beautiful thing, you are just the most gorgeous pencil….” I mean, how crazy is that? But it works.

NT: How do you do this?

That, of course, is what everyone asks. “How can I just make myself feel good? I have too many bills to pay, I have a crappy partner, I have dogs that chew up everybody, I have a neighbor whose dog poops on my lawn all the time…”

NT: “…And the guy in front of me at the green light, talking on five telephones.”

Exactly. So how do you take your focus off that? You do what I just call flip switching. I look at the fly that right now is on the inside of my window, driving me nuts, and I start to appreciate that little bugger for all he’s worth. Is he going to go away? I don’t know—but I’m sure going to feel better.

NT: If you have a lifetime of worry, doubt, negativity, fear—does it take a lifetime to turn it around?

No, and that’s a common concern. Find a way to spend even just ten minutes a day. I don’t mean all at once; a few seconds here, a few seconds there, see if you can get up to 30 seconds a day. Just find something to look at and appreciate.

I will drive around in the car and say, “Okay, today, as I drive around, I am going to find something to appreciate. If I see a brick building, I am just going to just love it. I am just going to appreciate it.

This is something, remember, that you need to feel, not just think. If you can do that for three to five minutes—hey, even three to five seconds—every day, you be amazed at how rapidly you will start to shift. Keep it up, and you get momentum on your side.

NT: Lynn, I can sit here and appreciate the dickens out of these trees, this beautiful day, the birds, the garden, that’s easy—but my checkbook balance still sits there…

Because you’re focusing on it. Money is the most negatively charged word in the English language. As you focus on it, you feel it; as you feel it, you vibrate it; as you vibrate it, you attract more of what you don’t want. It’s our bellwether, it’s the thing that we have that says, “my life isn’t working, this isn’t going the way that I want it to go”—and that’s exactly what we get more of.

It hit me a few years ago: here I was, a mortgage broker, and I couldn’t pay my own damn mortgage! The first thing I did was to write myself a 30-day program. I kept a log of my feelings. It was the most difficult thing that I have ever done—but I was bound and determined to do it.

I was floored at how many times during the day I would get that knot in my gut: “I don’t want to do this… How am I going to pay the bills…? What has this got to do with paying the bills…?” After about ten days, bit by bit, things began to change. Money started coming in; things started to turn around. Eighteen months later, I was making more than ten times what I was making in the first place.

It’s just physics: what I had been getting was what I focused on: a smaller bank account and a whole lot more bills. Now, I started getting a larger bank account.

NT: To what extent are we at the effect of what other people are thinking and feeling?

We live in a sea of negative vibrations; the entire world lives a good bit below middle C. And we are influenced—but we don’t have to be. That’s only a choice that we make. Your boss may be a very negative person—a horse’s rear end, in fact. Do you have to be at the effect of him? Absolutely not. It’s up to you to say, “No, I’m not going there today.”

And honestly, it doesn’t take much to become a person who decides you are simply going to feel a little better. That’s all it takes—and you will no longer be at the mercy of what goes on around you.

NT: As a former mortgage broker, you appreciate compound interest. Are you saying that just this little bit, plus a little bit, plus a little bit every day is like compound interest—that that’s part of its power?

It’s magic. I don’t know how else to say it. My income went from $30,000 a year up to $250,000 a year and has stayed there, more or less. Now, whenever it dips down significantly, I can look back over the prior few months and see where I’ve gotten off track in what I’m feeling.

NT: So this is a constant process, not something you get handled once and for all?

Darned right. I get e-mails from people who say, “How do you keep this going?” I want to write them back and say, “When you find out, honey, let me know!” Actually, that’s what the next book, Flip Switching, is about. It is probably the easiest thing in life, and yet probably the most difficult thing.

NT: Because it’s so simple?

Because it’s so simple. We just never knew that how we feel—which we think of as “normal”—is not the way it was designed to be.

NT: In your book, you speak about “creating a new script.” Can you speak a little bit about that?

It’s simply playing “let’s pretend” and getting into the feeling of it. Let’s say you want to put a new tree out in the front yard, and it’s a little more expensive than what you wanted. You start pretending that you are talking to everybody about this beautiful new tree that is out in your yard. “We have so much more fun under that tree, we put a swing under it, and yes, there’s a little bit of a problem keeping the leaves up, but truth is, it’s such a joy to rake the leaves….” It’s a “let’s pretend” game. You do it for as many days as it feels comfortable. Keep adding new characters and new plots; pretty soon something will happen. Somebody will call and say, “Hey, there is a sale on down at such and such nursery. They have got these big trees down there—you want to go down and take a look?” That’s just the way it happens.

I’m not talking about going inside and getting in touch with that cute little inner child, or why your family dropped you on your head and abandoned you. I’m simply talking about you, at this moment. No matter what, learn how to change your feelings in the moment—and magic will start to happen.

I have had it happen to me over and over. I have also had the reverse happen.

A few months ago I was chatting with a guy on a radio interview, and he told me a story about his fiancée. All her life, for as long as she was able to drive, she had wanted this new Mercedes. However, she was scared to death that as soon as she got it, she would dent it. She finally got the Mercedes. Three weeks later, she put a dent in it! She got what she had focused on emotionally. She was sending out those frequencies, those fear feelings—and by golly, look what happened.

Now, here’s the best part: she was reading my book at the time, so she said to her fiancé, “I just created the most beautiful dent in my car.” I thought that was fabulous. She got it!

We live as we vibrate, not as we decide. Everything comes to us according to how we flow our feelings in every single solitary moment. If you want to change what you are living, then all you have to do is change what you are feeling.

I’m not talking about going inside and getting in touch with that cute little inner child, or why your family dropped you on your head and abandoned you. I’m simply talking about you, at this moment. No matter what, learn how to change your feelings in the moment—and magic will start to happen.