You're writing a story that you may not know how to fully tell. It's a very personal story with its own history and language. It's highly visible to others but often not to you. When I spoke with a well-known self-help guru, his response was, "You know, Dave, I don't know how to tell this story to myself in order to know what to change."

It's a story that you talk about every day, and think about several times a day. It is remarkably simple yet intricately complex. This story has an internal and external dialogue, a secret language, and encrypted messages.

It's complicated because some important aspects are emotional, unspoken, and even unconscious.

This story is about the longest relationship you'll have in your life....