(This article was excerpted from UnHypnosis: How to Wake Up, Start Over, and Create the Life You're Meant to Live, by Dr. Steve Taubman.)

Most people, when contemplating their goals, immediately fill their minds with a list of things they want. I call these "getting goals." It's important to have many, many getting goals, objectives for what we want to attain, whether material, spiritual, or psychological.

However, it's rare for anyone to discuss "giving goals," or objectives for what we intend to contribute to the world. I believe that these are the far superior goals to have. While seeking attainment of any kind is natural and normal, and even stimulates an important, deep psychological transformation into possibility thinking, it doesn't feed the soul in the same way as putting one's attention on being of service to others...